I’m going to say what most planners won’t. A lot of wedding stress?Self-inflicted. Not because you’re doing anything wrong — but because you’re following advice that doesn’t actually serve you. As a wedding planner in Edmonton, I’ve seen behind the scenes of a lot of weddings. And the difference between a wedding that feels effortless and one that feels chaotic? It’s almost always the same few mistakes. Let’s get into it. Mistake #1: You’re Planning for Other People I know.